She designed a life she loved.

I read this quote just the other day, and at a quick glance, thought, that sounds nice and motivational. It’s a mantra for that “go-getter” woman. This “she” person made it happen. It made me imagine a woman who doesn’t take ‘no’ for an answer, a woman who takes the ‘bull by the horn’, as the saying goes. She is strong and she is happy.

There is not a single human being that doesn’t want to love his or her life. Unless you have some mental health issues, it is an inherent trait we all possess to desire to live a wholesome and fulfilling, happy life.

But, if you stop and think about this quote, it implies that this woman knows what she wants her life to look like and made the efforts to get herself there. I venture to say that, while everyone wants to love his/her life, many, or maybe even most, don’t know the specifics of their dreams. Many don’t stop to think about taking the steps in that direction, much less plan to take those steps. It’s not about just doing things that make you happy, but it’s about thinking, planning, and then building. What am I good at? Who do I want to surround myself with? To get to where I want to be, do I need to go back to school or keep saving money? These are some initial questions you can ask yourself.

Designing your life requires intentionality. Because something worth doing is worth doing well. Your life is worth it.


Be a good steward

After several months of going back and forth with my husband’s company to decide on whether or not they will be relocating, they recently decided that they will, indeed, relocate, as a strategic move for the company. I had been waiting and hoping for this decision because I really wanted to be closer to family and friends. And now that we are moving forward with plans to sell the house and look for our new home, I have been (even more) unmotivated to clean or organize the house. I rationalize by telling myself that I will keep our next home cleaner. I will spend more time thinking of where to put things and be more organized. I don’t really need to waste my time and energy on this house anymore.

Then during this morning, when I was tidying the family room and was trying to get the kids to help pick up some of their toys, one of them said, “I don’t like cleaning. It’s boring.” To which I replied, “I know it’s not fun sometimes to clean, but you have to be responsible for your things. Being responsible means that, if something is yours, you have to take care of it.”

After these words came out of my mouth, this statement made me think.

This home may be sold in a few weeks or so, but it is still mine and I am responsible for it. And if I am responsible for it, then I need to take care of it (even if it doesn’t have my heart). And I wondered, do I do this to people and relationships? If I know that the relationship is not going to be a long-lasting one, if my heart is not invested, do I “check out” of the relationship? Do I not take care of that relationship or that person? The answer was not easy to swallow.

You might think, that’s kinda normal. Or, everyone does that to a degree. But, I wasn’t happy with my conclusion. I believe that God gives us relationships, makes us cross paths with new people, and bring old ones back for a purpose, but if I am not doing my best to care for that relationship, I am not being a good steward. I don’t want to be that person. I want to do as much as I can until that relationship ends for some reason (because, NEWSFLASH: many relationships do end), because I don’t want to do something half-heartedly. I don’t want to look back and regret that I should’ve done more. That I could’ve given more. I don’t want to add to my box of regrets.

I was reminded that you shouldn’t wait until you have that next home that you plan on living in for a long time, or start a relationship that you think is going to last a long time, or have more time, to be a good steward and take care of your belongings (time, people, things). You are responsible for what you have now. How are you going to take care of it?